"Am I too old to find love?"

Recently, I met a kind hearted woman who has just come out to her family after 40 years of marriage with a man. She surprised all of her family members and her grown up children too. She was concerned that she would never find love. She asked me "Am I too old to find love?"

I realised, it's a difficult question with multifaceted reasons.

What is too old for finding love?

Agism

In our society, there is an element of agism where older people aren't looked as favourably as younger people.

 Plus coming out of the closet can be a daunting and emotional experience for anyone, regardless of age. It takes courage to be true to oneself and embrace one's identity, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. But what if you're older and wondering if it's too late to find love after coming out?

It's important to remember that age is just a number and should not define your ability to find love. Love knows no bounds and can happen at any stage of life. Whether you're in your 20s, 40s, 60s, or beyond, it's never too late to pursue happiness and fulfillment in a relationship.

Coming out later in life may come with its own set of challenges, but it also brings a wealth of life experience and wisdom. Embrace your journey and the unique path that has led you to this moment. Your authenticity and courage in coming out can be incredibly attractive qualities to potential partners. Coming out regardless when, is an act of courage so please be proud of yourself for coming out because I am proud of you for coming out.

 

Sunken and Sinking Cost Fallacy

Most people have heard of the sunken cost fallacy where you justify to yourself that because you've spent so much time, cost and money you continue to sit it out.

But have you heard about sinking cost fallacy? It's when you continue to still invest more time, more energy and cost and plan your future around something that doesn't help you. It's important to take a look inwards, look at your life objectively and see what you want. I know it is scary but remember that you deserve more and deserve better. Just because you're stuck in it and have been put inso much time, effort and money and still aren't happy that doesn't mean you should still be in it. I've spoken more about it in this article available here.

Connect with your LGBTQ community

Finding love after coming out may require stepping out of your comfort zone and connecting with the LGBTQ+ community. Attend social events, join support groups, or explore online dating platforms specifically for the LGBTQ+ community. Surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals can help you feel supported and understood as you navigate the dating scene.

When it comes to finding love, it's important to remain open to possibilities and not limit yourself based on preconceived notions of age or timing. Love can surprise us when we least expect it, so stay open to new connections and relationships that may come your way. Remember, it's never too late to find love and happiness.

So, if you're wondering whether it's too late to find love after coming out, the answer is a resounding no. Embrace your journey, connect with your community, and remain open to the possibilities that love has to offer. Your authentic self deserves to be loved and cherished, no matter your age.

To answer the question, "no, you're never too old to find love."

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